{"id":392,"date":"2025-05-15T15:37:50","date_gmt":"2025-05-15T15:37:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/originalholdum.com\/?p=392"},"modified":"2025-05-16T15:43:47","modified_gmt":"2025-05-16T15:43:47","slug":"many-hide-cash-from-their-partner-but-secret-savings-are-actually-a-good-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/originalholdum.com\/index.php\/2025\/05\/15\/many-hide-cash-from-their-partner-but-secret-savings-are-actually-a-good-thing\/","title":{"rendered":"Many hide cash from their partner \u2014 but secret savings are actually a good thing"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"646\" height=\"431\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"article-image wp-image-23092898 lazyload\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" data-src=\"https:\/\/originalholdum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/GettyImages-2052581954-dca9.jpg\">\t<\/div><figcaption>Having a secret savings account is more common than you think (Picture: Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div class=\"metro-article-audio-player\" data-vars-type=\"article-audio-player\">\n<div class=\"metro-article-audio-player-play-row\">\n\t\t\t\t<button class=\"metro-article-audio-player-play-button\"><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t<title>Listen to article<\/title>\t\t\t\t\t<span>Listen to article<\/span><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t<\/button><\/p>\n<div class=\"img-container\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"sponsor-image lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" alt=\"Powered by\" data-rewritten=\"false\" data-src=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/wp-content\/themes\/metro\/includes\/site-blocks\/article-audio\/assets\/powered-by.png\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"audio-controls hidden\">\n\t\t\t\t<audio class=\"audio-element\" src=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/ElevenLabs_2025-05-15T15_35_52_Axell-British-YouTube-Personality-_pvc_sp100_s50_sb75_se30_b_m2-214a.mp3\" controls id=\"audio-68275c1dab532\">\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\tYour browser does not support the audio element.<br \/>\n\t\t\t\t<\/audio>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>When <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2025\/05\/14\/getting-married-financial-benefits-think-23005874\/\">you\u2019re in love<\/a>, you tend to want to share everything, and once you\u2019re living together that often includes pooling your money into joint accounts.<\/p>\n<p>While that can make sense, especially when it comes to contributing to bills, holidays and other shared expenses, it\u2019s rarely a good idea to do this with <em>all <\/em>your cash.<\/p>\n<p>Having some money, which is clearly your own, that\u2019s held in your own account, means you\u2019ll retain some <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2021\/11\/13\/what-is-a-f-off-fund-and-should-you-have-one-already-15596478\/\">financial independence<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>In short, it\u2019s your money to spend as and when you wish without having to ask permission to buy something or justify purchases at a later date.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Is having your own savings account in a relationship a good idea?<\/h2>\n<p>It all depends <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/03\/06\/how-should-a-couple-manage-their-money-18381996\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/03\/06\/how-should-a-couple-manage-their-money-18381996\/\">on your relationship<\/a>, really.<\/p>\n<p>Some say it helps to discuss how you plan to save independently with your partner upfront. This is so you\u2019re on the same page when it comes to joint <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/tag\/savings\/\">savings<\/a> goals \u2013 especially if you have different approaches to money.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, there\u2019s also a strong argument that keeping some of your savings secret <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/10\/31\/i-have-thousands-in-the-bank-hidden-from-my-husband-im-not-alone-19743620\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/10\/31\/i-have-thousands-in-the-bank-hidden-from-my-husband-im-not-alone-19743620\/\">could be a good thing<\/a> \u2013 even though it might go against the foundations of trust most believe are vital <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2025\/05\/03\/boyfriend-48-years-older-people-think-im-caregiver-23020143\/\">in a relationship.<\/a><\/p>\n<figure class=\"img-container shareable-item wp-caption\">\n<div class=\"img-wrap\">\n\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"646\" height=\"431\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"article-image wp-image-23092971 lazyload\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" data-src=\"https:\/\/originalholdum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/GettyImages-1554414506-1b2a.jpg\">\t<\/div><figcaption>More women have a \u2018break-up fund\u2019 than men do (Picture: Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Sound like a strange thing to have? Well, 2024 research from financial reviews site Smart Money People found one in five people say they have a secret savings account, as they don\u2019t discuss finances with their partner.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s more, 37% of people in a relationship are secretly saving to maintain financial independence.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why is it important to have an emergency fund?<\/h2>\n<p>For most, it\u2019s there to maintain that independence. <\/p>\n<p>But interestingly, 26% of women with a secret savings account are cultivating <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/03\/15\/breaking-up-is-expensive-heres-how-much-it-costs-the-average-couple-18444976\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2023\/03\/15\/breaking-up-is-expensive-heres-how-much-it-costs-the-average-couple-18444976\/\">a breakup fund<\/a>. For men, it\u2019s just 20%.<\/p>\n<p>The research also stated that a breakup fund is most prevalent among people in their 30s.<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, these kinds of savings accounts act as your own insurance policy if things aren\u2019t going well. It\u2019s money that would allow you to ditch your partner without worrying in the short term about things like how you\u2019ll afford somewhere to live in the immediate time after leaving. Or let you buy a new car or other things that were previously shared.<\/p>\n<div class=\"metro-poll\" id=\"1707753799226-20253678\" data-option1=\"It&#039;s essential for financial independence\" data-option2=\"It&#039;s unnecessary if you trust your partner\" data-option3=\"It&#039;s useful as a safety net, just in case\" data-option4=\"It can potentially harm trust in the relationship\" data-url=\"https:\/\/api.metro.co.uk\/polls\/v2\/\" data-track-module=\"poll\">\n<h3 class=\"metro-poll__title\">What is your opinion on keeping a secret savings account while in a relationship?<\/h3>\n<ul class=\"metro-poll__list\">\n<li data-option=\"option1\" class=\"metro-poll__option\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score-bar-wrapper\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__content\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__text\">It&#8217;s essential for financial independence<\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li data-option=\"option2\" class=\"metro-poll__option\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score-bar-wrapper\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__content\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__text\">It&#8217;s unnecessary if you trust your partner<\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li data-option=\"option3\" class=\"metro-poll__option\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score-bar-wrapper\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__content\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__text\">It&#8217;s useful as a safety net, just in case<\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li data-option=\"option4\" class=\"metro-poll__option\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score-bar-wrapper\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__content\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__text\">It can potentially harm trust in the relationship<\/div>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__score\"><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"metro-poll__share\">\n<div class=\"metro-poll__share-buttons\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"metro-button share-button facebook\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fmetro.co.uk%2F2025%2F05%2F15%2Fmany-hide-cash-partner-secret-savings-actually-a-good-thing-23091980%2F%3Fito%3Darticle.desktop.share.poll.facebook\" target=\"_blank\" data-vars-platform=\"facebook\" data-vars-position=\"poll\" data-share-type=\"facebook\" rel=\"noopener\"><title>Share on Facebook<\/title><span>Share your results<\/span><\/a><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"metro-button share-button twitter\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fmetro.co.uk%2F2025%2F05%2F15%2Fmany-hide-cash-partner-secret-savings-actually-a-good-thing-23091980%2F%3Fito%3Darticle.desktop.share.poll.twitter&amp;text=&amp;via=MetroUK\" target=\"_blank\" data-vars-platform=\"twitter\" data-vars-position=\"poll\" data-share-type=\"twitter\" rel=\"noopener\"><title>Share on X<\/title><span>Tweet your results<\/span><\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Yes, it all sounds like a downer, and hopefully you\u2019d never need to use it. But having one could give you the breathing space you need if you really want or <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2025\/04\/21\/like-mafs-jamie-dave-70-couples-this-toxic-relationship-dynamic-22933564\/\">need to end things<\/a>. It means you don\u2019t have to stick somewhere that\u2019s making you unhappy, or worse, because you can\u2019t afford to leave.<\/p>\n<p>And the money can also apply to other situations you want to leave \u2013 perhaps a bullying boss or <a href=\"https:\/\/metro.co.uk\/2025\/01\/02\/asked-work-home-health-fired-22213759\/\">toxic work environment<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Secrecy aside, this doesn\u2019t mean you <em>shouldn\u2019t<\/em> trust your partner with money.<\/p>\n<p>If anything, it\u2019s vital that you actively and regularly talk\u2028about (the rest of your) finances with them.<\/p>\n<p>Doing so isn\u2019t just going to strengthen your ability to spend and save together, but pulling together for the same money goals could help keep your relationship powering along for years to come. <\/p>\n<div class=\"factbox\" data-ico=\"factbox_article\" data-track-module=\"factbox_article\">\n<h2 class=\"factbox-title\">\n\t\t\t\tEasy Access Savings Accounts\t\t\t<\/h2>\n<div class=\"factbox-content\">\n<p>What\u2019s really important with these kinds of accounts, and any kind of emergency fund, is that you can access them as soon as you need the money, which means they need to be in easy access accounts.<\/p>\n<p>Rates are falling and are set to fall even further this year if we get more base rate cuts as predicted. Even so, don\u2019t let that put you off finding the highest-paying account right now. You can always move your money again if you find there are higher paying alternatives.<\/p>\n<p>A handful of current accounts offer higher paying rates than those below, but you\u2019ll need to open a current account first if you don\u2019t already have it. Here are four top-paying accounts that anyone can open.<\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Bank: Cahoot<\/strong><br \/>Account Rate: Sunny Day Saver<br \/>Rate: 5.00% AER variable for 1 year on balances up to \u00a33,000<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bank: Charter Savings Bank<\/strong><br \/>Account Rate: Easy Access<br \/>Rate: 4.46% with unlimited penalty-free withdrawals with a minimum deposit of \u00a31<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bank: Skipton Building Society<\/strong><br \/>Account Rate: Quadruple Access Cash ISA Saver<br \/>Rate: 4.00% tax-free\/AER variable<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bank: Yorkshire Building Society<\/strong><br \/>Account Rate: Easy Access Saver Issue 3<br \/>Rate: 4.10% and allows unlimited penalty-free withdrawals<\/li>\n<\/ul><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><em>Follow Andy, award-winning blogger and podcaster from Be Clever With Your Cash, on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/becleverwithyourcash\/\">Instagram <\/a>and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UC_T7G3RjQe7ghD0ikr4reuw\">YouTube<\/a>, or visit <a href=\"http:\/\/becleverwithyourcash.com\">becleverwithyourcash.com<\/a>. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Having a secret savings account is more common than you think (Picture: Getty Images) Listen to article Listen to article Your browser does not support the audio element. 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